Marriage with the right person and intention can be a wonderful adventure. But infidelity can twist that dream into a nightmare. Most affairs continue because the cheaters think they can get away with it, so admitting the betrayal or coming clean when simply asked isn’t likely in many cases. Fortunately, there are some simple ways to catch a cheating husband (or wife for that matter) and put an end to the betrayal and lies once and for all.
Check Their Tech Devices
This is probably one of the easiest and most effective things you can do if you think your husband’s messing around. Chances are, he’s one of the 85% of Americans who has his smartphone or another favorite tech device literally attached to his hip most days. But he’s certainly able to guard everything all the time. There’s no reason to keep those devices locked 24/7 unless they’re trying to hide activities from prying eyes. So check if their devices are locked, and if not, root through history and recent contacts. You don’t need to spy on everything (and let’s face it, you shouldn’t), but repeated names and web activity can help prove you’re not overreacting.
Get Some App Assistance
If you have a smart speaker hooked up in your home, you can easily just ask Alexa. Modern devices like Amazon Echo and other speakers can be programmed to pick up all voice commands. So they’re always “listening” and recording nearby audio. Check the system’s recent recordings or hook up a new app to the room and your personal smartphone or preferred tech device to get some audio evidence. The right apps can also prove whether they’re where they claim to be at any given time.
Check for Unusual Receipts or Spending Patterns
Unless the affair is totally virtual or completely emotional, chances are there’s a paper trail somewhere. Check your partner’s pockets, desk drawers, car, or wherever you think they’ll stash paper receipts. You may find receipts for birth control, flowers, hotel stays, lingerie, other gifts, and even weekend getaways that were previously claimed as business requirements. Be sure to check your bank accounts and credit cards as well to see if there are any obvious spending changes.
Visit Their Workplace or Come Home Early
Cheaters can be great at covering their tracks. But that just means you may need to rely a bit more on your instincts. Your cheating husband undoubtedly knows your schedule. Perhaps you’ve never visited his workplace. Time to switch things up. Show up unannounced but with a specific purpose such as an impromptu lunch date or an important issue that needs to be handled in person. If they work at home or are home before you normally are, come home early to catch the cheater in the act–or at least keep them on their toes.
Hire a Private Investigator
Adultery research presented at the American Psychological Association convention disclosed findings that partners who have cheated even once are potentially 350% more likely on average to cheat again. So while “Once a cheater, always a cheater” isn’t true in every case, the adage does have merit. Know your partner’s relationship background. And if your intuition is buzzing or nagging, there’s likely a reason. Catching a cheating husband can be incredibly emotionally draining, not to mention potentially dangerous. Rather than add to your stress, you can give us a call to contact a private investigator who will get the answers you need and deserve.