While it’s no surprise adultery is still a major reason for divorce, it may come as a surprise that a whopping 40% of divorce and separation are due in part to a cheating spouse, compared to only 17% of divorces without an adultery admission or claim. Fortunately, you don’t have to hide in the bushes to discover the truth, be caught by surprise, or feel like you’ve been hit by a bus because there are several warning signs your spouse is cheating on you.
Your Partner’s Head Turns–A Lot
Most happy couples attempt to curb continual signs of obvious attraction towards others around their partner. If you notice your partner’s head-turning rather blatantly, or at least more often than usual, it may be a sign they’re wandering outside of the relationship.
Your Spouse Is Attached to Their Phone
Social media addiction is a serious problem for many, and a well-known divorce study disclosed 33% of divorce cases cited online cheating. If your spouse seems attached to their phone, hides it away from you, suddenly locks it, talks in hushed tones, or otherwise acts overly interested in it, that could be a sign of adultery.
Unusual Or Increased Spending Habits
You may not know about every cent that enters and exits the household, but you should have a clear concept of how much money your accounts contain. Pay attention to the monthly spending. If ATM access suddenly increases or your spouse limits your access to credit cards or financial statements, adultery could be the reason.
Sudden Work Schedule Changes
There are legitimate reasons for extra work requirements and extended hours. However, if your spouse is working late into the night, consistently changing plans with you due to work needs, and acting vague or defensive when you discuss it, that could be a sign of concern.
Drastic Or Sudden Intimacy Changes Occur
Intimacy is rarely stable throughout marriage. It goes through high peaks and low valleys depending on life stress and personal challenges. But if the changes–positive or negative–occur suddenly or without obvious reasons behind it, it may be due to sudden confidence changes, guilt, or disinterest on your partner’s end due to an outside source.
They’re Lashing Out Or Accusing You of Disloyalty
Communication is essential for any type of successful relationship. But if your spouse is suddenly lashing out for unusual or dumb reasons or they’re accusing you of being interested in someone else, they may be projecting their own guilt and feelings onto you.
There Has Been Previous Infidelity
Infidelity has been studied for years, and sometimes it’s simply a mistake or a reason to move on. But one recent study concluded that a cheating partner who stays in the relationship is three times more likely to cheat on their spouse in the future. The study also states that a person who has been cheated on in the past is two-to-four times more likely to be cheated on again.
Obviously, a couple of the above signs can occur during a strong marriage without indicating a problem. But if several occur simultaneously or without a clear reason, it may be time to enlist the help of a Michigan infidelity investigator. Give us a call when you’re ready to know for sure if you’re dealing with a cheating spouse.